So, its official I'm a mother, I've been able to pull through a gruesome 9 months pregnancy and give birth (via cesarean) to a bouncing baby girl. My husband now ex. wanted a boy but who cares a child is a child.
Lets go back to the beginning!!
I got married at the ripe Nigerian old age of 31 to Mr available as against Mr Right thinking in my mind like most fish brained ladies would, I can manage, he's not all bad. Oh my lord, I never esperred it, I lived through the worst 6 years of my life even though I couldn't blame anyone but myself because I saw it and entered one chance with both eyes wide open.
Anyways, there I was in a Canadian hospital screaming at my ex-husband 2 days after my daughter's birth and I realized I could't keep up. It would be madness after all in local parlance na my contribution money I carry born. We could not manage each other then add a child in the mix, I could smell a disaster looming and I wasn't sure that one of us wouldn't end up six feet under. It was imperative we take some time apart.
Fast forward, I was back in Nigeria, 3 month old baby in hand scared out of my wits because I didn't sign up for this, in my mind we can try co-parent (fa fa fowl, In Zebrudia's voice). The bros began a smear campaign and yours truly decided he ain't worth it. My parents chased me out because of the things he said, ignoring the fact that the brother had a plan and when lies/truth mix tarnishing a persons image is a done deal.
At some point my parents realized his intent and they came round because of my daughter but I had decided to raise her to the best of my ability. And so my journey began, I should tell you guys about Nigerian house-helps (oh my lord the stories I will tell) or the awkwardness of seeing my ex husband at a party after 2 years apart (is a #pepperdem something). I'd also tell you about my first snog after three years😉😉😜, how I became a topic and reference point of shame to my family and at work.
It was not funny, I'm excited to share my experiences with you and get your thoughts as well. I’m also reaching out to single parents who are willing to tell their stories so young people can learn from their mistakes.
These stories would be posted here, I'd like to know how you ended up a single parent? What you went through? How you managed the situation? and finally what help was needed or if any help is still needed going forward?
Personally, I think religious marital counselling is not enough preparation for marriage and at the end of the day when the problems come and life happens there’s nowhere to turn, if your interested please send your story to yikesimasinglemum@gmail.com
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