Pastors and their opinions, keep it to yourself

Sister Hauwa calm down, he's your husband, you have to go back to him and fix your marriage. Remember the Bible says a righteous woman builds her home.

I looked at the pastor if only I could slap him. I came back to Nigeria broke as a pauper, our brother the husband had decided that since I didn't want the marriage he wouldn't fend for his child. He had technically never taken care of me so I really didn't care but for a man to neglect his own blood much less a child I wasn't having it all.


Pastor T, I'm not going back I had a vision or epiphany. I saw your brother tying me to a white plastic chair with a black cloth. When I realized what he was doing I started to fight him and I woke up.

Now, I've never been an overly spiritual person but I remember a time I was told to buy a white plastic chair and sow it as a seed in church for my marriage to happen (I have suffered small sha, a story for another day). I don't recall if I bought the chair or not but this epiphany translated to frustration and certain death if I stayed.


Pastor, since I got married I've not achieved anything for myself. I have tried to push his business and everything he does so he can stand as a man. I stopped working and got a shop in the central market since he claimed that I was a prostitute because of my bank job. (Ashewo sef na work, but a discussion for another day)

What's the thanks I get, distrust, public embarrassments, and the truth is God didn't create women to head homes, especially frustrated women? The sex was terrible and he wasn't giving me money, so I'd be losing both ways (No way Jose). 

I knew sex might be struggle, I spoke to a friend who suggested I test  the guy and remember that sex isn't everything in a marriage. 

I'm not perfect, I agree that there were situations I could have handled better. Since, only a little salve is needed to dress a wound, you don't need to pour a bottle of Dettol on the wound it is counterproductive.


It is only fair, let's take time apart and evaluate our life choices and behavior, we shall review after two years. Sister Hauwa, stop being stubborn, time apart will not help it will make things worse.  I listened to him drone on for another 30 minutes and left the church thinking to myself (who is the fool #joker).

Driving back home,  I remembered when I met my ex-husband after he proposed, my then pastor asked his wife where did Hauwa get this guy he looks like a drug addict 👀? Anyway, that's not the story, I had this prophetess who used to pray for me and she told me to go ahead and marry. Everyone else said no and in my heart, I knew the marriage might not work. Why did I marry this man, to obey a pastor or because I was 31?

No use dwelling on the past, I decided no one can force me to stay, I will do what my conscience tells me and quietly I blocked the pastors number for national peace and progress. Next thing I see, a call from my ex's mother.....

To be continued

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